Frequently Asked Questions(FAQs)

How do I become a member of the Eros community We ask all interested people to send us a message via email, voice, or text. We will need your name and the event you wish to attend. Once we receive this information we will send you a confirmation back with the location address, directions and other helpful newcomer information. If you haven't heard back from us within 48 hours, please send another message as we do get messages in our bulk folder fairly often.

Once you arrive at the facility you park your car (please don't park on the grass) and walk up to the main long building, painted a darker brown color with white trim. There is a sidewalk that leads to a wooden door and you don't have to knock, you can just walk in, you are welcome and we will be very happy to see you.

What type of people attend the events We have a diverse group of friendly, social, and open minded people who attend each party. New couples are always invited to attend any party regardless of the theme. All party themes and activities are optional participation with many rooms open to general regular activity and sexy fun.

How do you describe the facility location Our events are held at a home-like retreat center in Redmond, WA, surrounded by acres of natural and beautiful grounds. We have lots of indoor play space for group fun, as well as areas that are semi-private for intimate moments with special friends. There is a wonderful heated indoor pool plus hot tub where swimming suits are optional, a dance area with great music, and a brass pole often used for erotic and fun shows. There are two outbuilding cabins that are available during our events; one is cozy and semi-private, and has a loft and two king sized beds; a very popular semi-private area that our members enjoy. The second cabin is larger and has recently been upgraded; this space can accommodate larger groups of members/friends who want to spend time together (at least 20-30 people or more if you are friendly) and you can spread out and have a sexy scene occur without being watched by all of the other members. This is the area that works best for light BDSM. If you want to be watched or show off for the other members; inside the main building works well for that in our largest open playroom (Voyeur Room) with lots of beds and seats. Check out our tour page to view photos of various rooms inside our party location.

What does it cost to attend; do you have an initiation or membership fee Please see the membership dues section of the home page.

What is the age range Generally our age range is from early 20's to 50's, every gathering is unique.

Do you allow single males to attend We have a limited number of pre-approved single males attend each evening event based on the number of couples and single females that will be in attendance. New single males who wish to become members need to attend a swim party first before they can be considered to attend one of our evening events. If you have reference from an existing member, please let us know.

Do single females attend YES! Almost every party includes several single females. We have many single females who have attended our parties for their first lifestyle event as a single, and some have become regular attendees and staff members.

Can a member couple bring an extra single person to a party Yes, single female guests are unrestricted at this time. If you wish to bring an extra male guest to a party, we ask you to do the following. First, we ask that you have met in person and are not just on-line friends. This is because we ask you to vouch for their good behavior, and that they will follow the event and facility rules. Second, if you do get permission to bring another man with you then he would need to attend the orientation meeting, and if you leave for the night we would ask that your party all leave at the same time. Single females are always permitted to bring a date with them, but the same rules apply to them as couples - you have met in person, he attends orientation, and then you need to leave together.

What should we wear Women often wear casual clothing and sexy little outfits and may bring lingerie and robes to change into as the evening progresses. Men often wear casual clothing and bring robes and towels to change into as the evening progresses. We will occasionally host special themed events, with details for optional dress for that evening.

Is food provided Please see the potluck section of the home page.

Is smoking allowed at the events Not indoors, but we have a covered smoking area on our patio which is just outside and around the corner from the pool and dance area.

Is BDSM permitted at Eros We allow very light BDSM in a semi-private large cabin area that is detached from the main party space. Very light BDSM at Eros means, light spanking and playing with toys. Medium and Heavy impact BDSM play is not permitted at Eros. This semi-private large cabin area is also used for sexy connections and very light BDSM should never be the totality of play out there.

Is it OK to bring pets if left in the car No, pets or animals are not permitted on the property (including left in a car) as we use a spiritual sanctuary space, and it is against the facility policies. Please email, or call, us with any questions.

What are the rules at each event Refer to our rules page to review our detailed party guidelines.

What should we bring It is advised to bring a small duffel bag with you to hold your items; change of clothes,robe, small play bag with your preferred safer sex items. There is a cubbyhole area available in the pool room to store your items. We do not have a locker setup so please do not bring valuables with you into the building. Instead, please lock them in your vehicle but do not set any car alarms.

Do we bring towels with us Yes, we recommend that everyone brings their own towels with them (your name on them preferably to avoid mix-ups) as we have a limited supply of towels for the members to use at the event.

Are cell phones or cameras allowed at the parties For our members privacy, any type of photo or video photography is strictly prohibited inside or outside the property. Also, Cell phone usage is strictly prohibited inside or outside the property during parties. It's best to leave cell phones in your locked vehicle, but they can be left at the front desk or stored in a bag, or jacket, as long as it is either turned off or on silent mode and is not used inside the buildings. Usage of a cell phone for calls, text, email, etc. is best done inside your vehicle in the parking lot.

What time do the events start and how late do they go Our evening events start at 8:00pm. Newcomer orientation is at 7:00pm before the party starts. Returning member couples/singles may arrive as late as they wish. The evening parties end at 1am. Swim parties start at 1:00pm and end at 5:00pm. Newcomer orientation for the swim parties start at 12:00pm.